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Help!!! I Hate My Boss!!!

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How many times have you heard this? How many times have you said this? I know I have heard and said this many times.  Actually a great number of people feel this way at some point in their professional career. From my personal experience and from the individuals I have spoken to It comes down to 2 reasons.

The first reason many individuals hate their boss is because their boss lacks people skills. That is a tough situation to be in. The person that you get your guidance, direction, input and leadership from talks to you in such a harsh, disrespectful manner. Whenever this is the case the dynamics involved in that work relationship can make things very ugly. The supervisor may know the technical or book knowledge to advance to be the supervisor but may lack in knowing how to express themselves properly. So people begin to hate any encounter, meeting, or discussion with them. This can also effect performance because feelings for them will leak over into other work areas. This can lead to not being as excited about their job because of a fear of being addressed by them. Some people I have spoken to even fall into a severe depression that spills over into their family life. They also feel trapped because they know they need the job to pay bills but hate going to work. The strange thing is  the boss may not have a clue that they lack people skills and may even begin to look at workers like they have no idea what they are referring to.

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The second reason and the one that I can relate to is the season may be up for that boss or job. So It may not be that there is hate for the boss but a hatred for not living or building their dream. I know this feeling to well. It really has nothing to do with the boss or job but more so because of a desire to fulfill my dream. When a woman is 9 months pregnant, all she knows is I have to get this baby out of me. Everything else becomes less significant and not as important, getting this baby out takes priority. Well when someone has a vision or dream that they have been pregnant with for a long time, sooner or later it will be time to deliver. When the time for delivery is near, the dream demands action. If noaction is taking then that is where the frustration comes in. So many people who say that they hate their boss or jobs actually are hating their lack of movement or action on their part to deliver their dream. So when they enter work M-F 9-5, they are becoming more and more frustrated and upset. So now they must redirect that energy and use that same passion positively to build and create their future. Once they begin to do that, they will no longer hate their boss because they will be their own boss

 

CAN YOU RELATE TO YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?

 

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This is an interesting question that I have to ask because I found that a lot of people really can not. In this impersonal social media and email era, the skill of dealing with humans is being lost in a lot of ways.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am a HUGE social media junkie, I also prefer email and text over speaking on the phone as well, however I still know the importance and skill it takes to deal with people face to face and one on one. Seems like a contradiction but it really isn’t. I believe to be truly successful in today’s world you must be able to be efficient at both.

How many times have you received horrible customer service from a store or business? How many supervisors do you know that know their job but have zero people skills? Or How many people do you know that can only think about themselves? They want you to help them, support them, come to their event,  but don’t even for a second think about reciprocating for you. Yes, true people skills really seems to be lacking today. More importantly the people guilty of these actions seem totally oblivious to their actions. They are the same ones going to social media to say how crazy everyone else is!

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Despite this deterioration, don’t allow this to deter you from still displaying your excellent people skills and nurturing your relationships.  The  reason being, those with great people skills still seem to go further in life and have healthier relationships. But what if you are one of those people who we are talking about who walks around with a frown but  swears to everyone you are really smiling.  There are many people who are destroying critical relationships and they have no clue that they are doing it.

What do you do to repair or maintain your relationships?

  • Ask a close friend. Ask someone who will give you honest feedback.  They can tell you if you come off selfish, or inconsiderate of others. If so don’t be offended, make adjustments.
  • Speak to people how you would like to be spoken to. Sounds simple, but if we really heard how we speak to people sometimes we would be shocked. No one likes to be spoken to like a child even when they are in the wrong.
  • Look in the mirror. There are times when we know we are wrong but at the moment really don’t care because we are so focused on ourselves. Take a good look at yourself and realize when you are at fault. If you are be responsible and change your approach.

I can’t stress enough how important relationships are in  today’s society. So often we think money is our number one resource, when in actuality our number resource is people. Remember it is not always WHAT you know, but WHO you know!